There are so many things I would tell my 25 yr old self now that I have hit my thirties. The most important advice is to keep surrounding yourself with godly women who are married and single to build up your faith.
Surrounding yourself with married godly women to mentor you will equip you to become a godly woman who will love her future husband well. These friends will help you pray for God's will in your life to help you grow closer to God. They will encourage you to submit your heart's desires to God to come into alignment with His Word.
"Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD, trust him and he will act."
Psalm 37:4-5 ESV
I have been told many things in the past one thing that has stuck with me is how as a single woman, I need to learn from other godly women who love their husbands and want to grow in that area. These women have taught me if I want a godly marriage in the future, I need to steadily seek God and pursue Him with all of my heart.
Now that I have hit my thirties, I have learned having the desire to be married is not bad. It is a good thing. God gives us desires. We have to lay the desires at the feet of Jesus to come into alignment with His will as we wait for His promises to come.
Another thing I have gleaned from these godly married women is there must be a balance between having single and married friends. We must have both sides to help those who are not where we are because they need to know what a godly marriage looks like.
Part of me does not understand why as godly women, we do not come alongside single women more often who want to be married and pray with them. I do not get how society expects single women to become godly wives if they have not seen the ropes of marriage by godly married women who have been married for a season. It is like culture around us just expects us to know how to do it without being mentored in the faith.
The point is we need to learn from each other to become more Christ-like and to love better. We are better united together than divided apart. I have learned so much from my friends who are married and put God in the center of everything. My friends have given me an honest reflection of what a godly marriage can look like by submitting to God first.
These godly women have taught me submission in marriage is not being a doormat, but a helpmate in a godly marriage. It is about give and take with lots of forgiveness---unconditional love mixed in it all.
As a single woman I have learned from my parents and friends marriage with God being the center of it, is choosing to love that person no matter what. By loving them despite their flaws and imperfections like Christ chose to die for us and save us from our sins. It is staying committed by choosing to show up every day.
"For where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am among them." Matt 18:20 ESV
The Holy Bible English Standard Version, Crossway Publishing, Wheaton IL, 2001,
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